We’re about to talk about a touchy subject. Not a lot of people want to bring it up or even acknowledge it. But I’m here to tell you, it happens. It happens more often than you might think. Its all around you and you probably don’t even know it.
I’m talking about infertility. There are 200,000 cases per year in the United States alone. That’s a lot don’t you think? Not to mention all of the ones that aren’t on the radar because they haven’t visited the physician, simply because they can’t afford it.
So many women live with the fact of not being able to conceive. Whether they have no children or they have a child and want another; or perhaps they thought their family was complete. They made the courageous decision to have a tubal ligation. Many things could change through the years following that decision; death, divorce, or marriage. So please don’t play the blame game.
It could have been the lady that made your coffee at the dinner this morning. It could even be your child’s teacher. But you’ll never know because no one speaks of it. And I know what you’re probably thinking and I’ll go ahead and give you the answer. Yes, there are surgeries and procedures to be able to make it possible to have children.
But have you priced those? I have.
They are not cheap; especially without insurance. And even if you do have insurance, more times than not, they won’t help you cover it. It’s not a “medical” issue to them. And sometimes even after being $25,000 in debt and being poked and prodded over and over again for months on end, its not always enough. A woman has to go through so many trials and tribulations to end up with what? Nothing.
It’s just another complicated heartache that never seems to go away. Therefore, those women suffer in silence as each day passes. They don’t make a spectacle out of it or themselves because they know that nothing will be done.
They always get the old “if it happens, it happens” or “you can always adopt”
If they don’t know your situation, the “when are you going to have a little one (or another one)” will really cut deep. Please for the love of all things holy, stop saying these, every single one of them. Its painful. You really don’t know how much it hurts to not be able to give an actual answer to any of those comments. All the tests and statistics are much worse when these questions are part of the negative outcome.
You may not mean it the way it sounds or even understand why, but its cruel. Those of you who use it as an April Fools joke or to play a “trick” on your significant other, I will let you in on a little secret. It is no laughing matter to be infertile.
Women all over would give anything to see those two pink lines or a smiley face when they look down at that test and you’re doing it as a joke. So, I ask you this, if you’re one of those that are guilty of this “joke”, how dare you? If you don’t already, I hope you feel ashamed after reading this. I know I would.
I say all of that to say this. Infertility is not easy to go through. It’s a long, hard, and depressing journey. I know these feelings because I, myself, am a statistic.
Be thoughtful and be kind. Let your words be encouraging and inspire all the hearts who have doubt.
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